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    Falling Out Of Love With Things

    I'm not too sure if this will be geared towards older members or not, but here goes.

    Over the last few years I've felt myself falling out of love with a lot of things I used to be obsessed with. As my posting might suggest on the forum, a big one is wrestling which I've lost the bug for and can't get back - not for anything recent at least. I've still got the network for recent PPVs and older shows, but outside of that I can't bring myself to spend time with it. AEW is easily accessible for me and I enjoyed the first two shows but I just can't find the motivation to sit down and watch any more.

    I can feel it happening with other things too. Last weekend I watched about 30 minutes of football (soccer) and switched it off and did something else, and I didn't feel worse for it. To put in perspective it's something I have comfortably spent 10+ hours every weekend watching for as long as I can remember. It used to make my weekend if my team won a game and I used to be distraught if my team lost. Now it's just nothing but apathy and if anything I felt happy that something that I wasn't enjoying anymore was out of sight.

    I think the reason for the post is how do people feel about falling out of love with stuff that has meant so much to you and shaping your enjoyments? Do you find that you get the love back for them or did you just lose it forever? Wrestling, along with football and Pokemon are pretty much my biggest obsessions for the first 25 years of my life, and now I only feel like I enjoy one of those. I can understand why I fell out of love with football as much because my team doesn't feel like my team, and everything around the sport feels lifeless. Wrestling feels weird because I can't get into any wrestling no matter the style anymore - there's a lot of options but nothing clicks with me anymore.

    What I have found is new obsessions. Cooking is a big one for me now, and I try and spend several hours a week cooking new things. While I always somewhat enjoyed them, me and Mrs Shock have gotten way into watching horror films over the last year, and we probably watch at least two or three a week. I always liked American Football too but this season I'm crazy about it, and watching as much as I can and trying to learn more and more. I don't know if these are just temporary substitutes for old interests or if it's a permanent thing, but I've found it much more enjoyable than forcing myself to sit down and watch a wrestling show because I feel obligated to.





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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    tbf Shock you say this is maybe geared for older members, but there can't be many members on this site under 25 now

    I think it just comes down to getting older, tastes changing, wanting new experiences and a lack of time on top of the things you love having a dip in quality because lets face it, nothing stays great forever. I only moved into my house a month ago and can see how big the effect of committing time to housework and adult shit has on enjoying my hobbies. I know for sure I'm watching less wrestling than I did earlier in the year and I think I've given up on being able to stay on top of the amount of content coming out. Wrestling in general has this exact problem where some promotions I loved years ago I can't stand now (Progress, New Japan) so I barely follow them, so I just move on to another promotion to go and watch. 2007-2010 though I wasn't watching much wrestling at all, and zero WWE.

    I know exactly where your are coming from with falling out of love with football because I went through that a few years ago under our Tony Pulis era (on top of England being bad at the 2016 euros) where I began to hate watching my own team play, attending games was a chore not a treat and I didn't enjoy even talking about football with anyone, let alone watching it. That does pass because now the last two years in the Championship I feel like I've got my club back, things are more exciting and passionate again and I've got a team to be proud of again. Football will always be the greatest sport, and eventually Newcastle will have their good days again. VAR would probably kill some of my enjoyment too if West Brom were in the prem.

    The big one for me was video games because I used to be big into my gaming 10 years ago, I'd play 5 hours a day and always anticipate new titles coming out and buy them as soon as they were released. Now I just think I can't commit the time to playing games that take 100+ hours to complete so I don't bother; how quickly I gave up on playing Witcher 3 and Red Dead Redemption 2 was telling. I don't think I've bought one game this entire year, not even the new PES yet, I just play old games in online multiplayers modes with IRL mates who live too far away to meet up with.

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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    Hanging out with friends. for most of my life, i would hang out with my friends as much as i could. atleast a few times a week.

    now i find id rather skip get-togethers and stay home and drink a few beers and watch wrestling. Before id feel like im missing something. Now i just dont care.

    i feel like a shit friend. i mean i go out for special occasions. but we never needed one to go out and get wrecked in our teens, 20s or 30s. now that im nearing 40, i just rather stay in
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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    Man, where do I begin?

    Wrestling is an obvious one. Some of you have probably noticed I've checked out of WWE big time this year, and I've sold almost all of my DVD's now. I've given other promotions a chance this year, but honestly I just couldn't continue to muster up enthusiasm for a product and company I wasn't enjoying, or felt represented my values anymore. Even now by taking up AEW I've dropped MLW in the process. I just have no desire to have it take up so much of my life anymore.

    My interest in football coincided with SAF retiring. It easy to play the "glory supporter" card, but over the years it again feels like the club no longer represents the values I supported growing up. Football and WWE in fact have the same problem to me in that I feel they're both too under the thumb of sponsers and shareholders at this point for me to want to support them.

    Movies are gonna be an interesting one next year, because as much as I like MCU and Disney stuff, it does feel particularly oversaturated at this point and I can see that taking a dip too. Gave up on gaming years ago, although my nephew still drags me back whenever I see him.

    Running and general health and fitness is still big for me though, which has transitioned into cooking and my move to a vegan diet. I feel like I value spending more time socialising with family and friends now, and actually cherish it more as an adult.



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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    I basically dont watch wrestling anymore. I'd say thats the only big interest that I've fallen out of love with. That said, I still love reading about wrestling, especially in formats that let me absorb a ton of shit without having to spend an insane time reading about it. Also, I still enjoy playing TEW which is a wrestling sim. Fortunately the fictional universes means I dont need to be caught up with the actual talent. I'd say I fell out of love with basketball after high school but that was more so because the opportunities to play weren't there anymore since I moved cities. I imagine if I had a friend nearby who wanted to, I'd play daily again.

    Those are my big ones. I've got things I go through on/off phases with (video games, movies, tv, anime, comics, books) where Ill go months without doing them then hop back in.

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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    Wrestling is a weird one, because I had fallen out of love with it over the last couple of years, but now I find myself watching AEW and NWA Powerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr each week with renewed enthusiasm.

    I think movies are the biggest one for me. Not movies in general, but more specifically action and comic book ones. For some reason I just can't bring myself to care about the majority of these types of movies that are coming out, which may just be part and parcel of getting older. As Dave mentioned above, it doesn't help that the comic book stuff is totally oversaturated at the moment. I also find myself going to the theater much less than I used to, though that may just be due to being busy as opposed to falling out of love with it.


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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    For me it's some of the heavy metal bands I used to love when I was 15-16-17-18 years old, really that whole genre of music in general is something I REALLY outgrew. God I used to be obsessed with Chimaira, Mudvayne, Lamb Of God, even went through a major Cannibal Corpse phase that didn't last long, I listen to these bands now and it's just like ugh. With that said though usually always around this time of year I get into a major late 80's/early 90's metal mood, I listened to Symbolic and Arise albums recently and they really hit the spot.

    MMA is the big one here lately though. Grew up as a huge fan from the Royce Gracie/VHS tape days when I was a kid and was OBSESSED with Pride FC until they folded, then I actually fought 9 fights and got pretty deep into the game myself and it just kinda changed the way I looked at the sport altogether. Even after I stopped competing I was still a big fan especially of the history and roots of the sport. It was just gradually all downhill though as far as being interested in the modern day product, all my favorite fighters getting old, UFC killing all competition(and moving mostly to cable channels I don't care to pay extra for), and just general boredom with 99% of the new generation of fighters in the game today, I haven't given a shit about anything going on in MMA for a good 2-3 years now. I do need to watch through my Pride collection again soon it's been a while.

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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    Wrestling is interesting for me. I'm completely out of touch with WWE Raw & Smackdown, but I still record NXT and AEW. The first show I make sure I watch is NWA Power, then generally NXT...I'll watch AEW if the results look interesting, but can't get through full shows. Not into the product they're putting out.

    Sports is hard for me to watch now that I'm in an area that doesn't have the teams I follow. The Patriots play enough on National tv for me to still watch the NFL, but I watch less and less baseball every year and hardly any hockey. Though with us soon to be getting the Disney plus, ESPN plus & Hulu package they're offering on the 12th, that could change...at least for hockey, which is all I care about.

    Friends, yeah, what are those? Moved...that's long over for me. Then again, I'd most likely skip an invite anyways.

    Bands, other than my own personal investigations on stuff I missed the first time around...I know little to nothing about current music. I live in an area that often gets skipped in tour planning and don't really want to see the bands that do come around or don't have time, because of my work or life schedule.


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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    The main things I can say I am currently out of love with that I was once really in love with would be e-feds and video games. E-feds used to consume my life for years. That's all I would do in my free time. Now it's something I'd like to get back into but I just know I'll quickly lose interest and motivation so I don't do it. Video games are a different story because I was never an avid gamer. I really never played through many story-oriented games other than maybe one of the Gears of Wars games and a couple Dead Space games but I did play the shit out of WWE games, NBA 2k, Madden and GTA back in the day. Like I could play them for hours and hours, would stay up all night just doing whatever nonsense on them and be entertained the whole time. Now, it's just a game or two here and there in 2k or Madden. Occasionally I'll turn on Red Dead Redemption and do a mission. But that's about it. The thing about those, though, is that I don't really feel any sadness about leaving them behind. They were practically obsessions at one point and now I'm content to never do those things. Not that I felt that I had a "problem" with e-fedding or gaming too much, but I think it's better where I am now that I make time for other hobbies and interests, and I'm not sitting at work, anxious to get off and go home and play games or write for my e-fed character.

    Wrestling is obviously one of the biggest things in my life and it has been literally as long as I can remember. I remember watching WWF and WCW at the age of 4 or 5, I had all the N64 games like Attitude, No Mercy, WCW vs nWo Revenge... so on and so forth. But around 2013(ish) I just quit, pretty much cold Turkey. And I stayed away from it completely until I came back to this forum, early last year. Pretty much 5 years straight watching no wrestling, barely following the happenings. Thinking about it now it's pretty crazy. But now I watch possibly more wrestling than I ever have. Between classic content from numerous companies, WWE, AEW, Impact, NWA, bits of ROH and New Japan, I am pretty much constantly watching wrestling. So I guess that goes to show you can always fall back in love with something that you once fell out of love with.
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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    Absolutely normal and somewhat required part of growing and changing as a person over time. Whether its internal factors or external ones, it happens. It can suck when you realize how something that used to consume your life to a huge degree and gave you so much enjoyment becomes far less important. In that way, our relationships with the things we are passionate about are not that different from our relationships with people.

    As others have said, you may find over time you come back to those interests, but its not always the same. Probably very rarely is. The passion may not be there to the same degree, but that's not always a bad thing. When we passionately love following / watching something that we have no active control over, it can lead to frustration. And that frustration can gradually become toxic. Just look at the entire Arsenal fanbase, or how many of us wrestling fans are just filled with vitriol towards the WWE. So when you go away from that interest for a time and come back, a reduced interest / passion isn't always a terrible thing. Sometimes it allows you to enjoy it in a way that you simply couldn't before.

    As a curmudgeony old man on WC, let me say this - don't focus the past. Use it, learn from it, grow from it, but don't mull on it. Don't focus on the interests that are fading and you are leaving behind, but on the new ones and the enjoyment they bring you. Focus on the person you are becoming, and enjoy that journey.
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    Re: Falling Out Of Love With Things

    I haven't been a wrestling fan since probably 2002 (what the hell am I doing on this site?), so I fell out of love with that a long time ago.

    I don't really enjoy things like drinking anymore. I might have 2 beers tops, or maybe a few glasses of wine... maybe more than a few. I really enjoy a nice Chianti. But the actual drinking in excess just isn't me anymore. It hurts. And I do dumb things.

    There are other things I still enjoy, I just don't have the time for anymore. I wish I could game all night long still, but I have a job - and things to care of. On the occasion I do get an uninterrupted 2-3 hours of gaming, I still have a great time. It's just those times come so few and far between.

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